You Just Got Engaged: What to Do Next
Congratulations—you just got engaged! 🎉 Whether you’re still staring at your new ring in disbelief or already dreaming of walking down the aisle, this is an incredibly exciting time. But many couples quickly wonder: “what to do after you get engaged?”
To help guide you through the first steps of your wedding journey, we’ve put together a list of essential things to do after saying “yes.” From sharing the news to booking vendors, here’s how to start planning with confidence.
1. Share The News
Tell your family and closest friends first, then announce it to the world however feels right—on social media, through a video, or at a small get-together. This is your moment to celebrate being newly engaged, so enjoy it!
Photography: The Bucket List Bride
2. Gather Wedding Inspiration
Start collecting ideas for your wedding day style. Browse Pinterest, Instagram, wedding blogs, and magazines to discover colors, themes, and fashion looks that inspire you. Friar Tux’s Stylist magazine is also full of fresh fashion ideas for engaged couples.
Photography: Xo and Fetti
3.Choose a General Date or Season
Don’t stress about an exact date right away. Start with a season or general timeframe—like “Summer 2026.” Flexibility will give you more venue options and less pressure early in the process.
Photography: Todd Danforth Photography
4. Discuss and Set A Budget
Have an open conversation with your partner (and any contributing family members) about how much you want to spend. Prioritize what matters most to you—venue, food, photography, or fashion—and assign funds accordingly.
Pro tip: some of your friends and family might want to help pay for things/contribute to the big day. A great way to do that is by giving them a specific line item to pay for: cake, rentals, food, bar, etc. That way they feel included and can see exactly where their money is going to.
5. Set A Guest Size
Guest size impacts your venue, catering, and overall budget. Make a first draft list with your partner, then invite your families to suggest additions you may have missed. You probably forgot to add your great aunt Linda who lives up-state, but we promise you, your parents didn’t.
Photography: I am Latreuo Photography | Nicolette Moku Photography | Molly + Co. Photography
6. Research, View, and Pick A Venue
You are going to want to research and view a few different venues, try to look at different types and styles to get a good read on what you want. Picking a venue is tricky, but here are some things to keep in mind when doing your investigations:
Location: Do you want a local wedding or destination?
Capacity: Will the venue be able to host all your guests?
Budget: This is a big one. what is the cost per guest. Is it in your price range?
Theme/Style: Does the venue match your wedding style?
Sleeping Accommodations: Can you rent rooms at the venue? Are there hotels/Airbnbs near by?
What is Included in the Venue Price: cleaning fees, included rentals, catering, valet, security, etc. Some venues come with it all, others do not
7. Secure Your On-Demand Vendors
Some vendors (like photographers, planners, and florists) book up a year or more in advance. If you just got engaged, prioritizing these professionals early will help ensure you get your top picks.
8. Celebrate With an Engagement Party
Before wedding planning takes over, take time to celebrate! Host a casual gathering or a big bash to toast your engagement with loved ones.
Photography: Eric Doolin Photography
9. Pick Out Your Wedding Day Fashions
Brides often begin dress shopping 10–12 months in advance. For suits and tuxedos, Friar Tux recommends starting the process 4 months before your wedding, so everyone has time to get fitted. Not sure which colors fit your vibe? Order free fabric swatches from Friar Tux to match your palette perfectly.
Photography: Amber Dawson Photography
10. Enjoy This Moment
Wedding planning is exciting, but don’t forget to pause and enjoy being engaged. Take time for date nights, weekend getaways, or simply soaking in this once-in-a-lifetime stage.
Photography: Jenni Summer Studios
Ready to Start Planning?
Now that you know what to do after you get engaged, it’s time to start your wedding planning journey with confidence. Explore more inspiration, wedding fashion, and planning resources at friartux.com.
✨ At Friar Tux, we’re here for you every step of the way—from “just engaged” to “I do.”